Hi, I’m Constance.
I provide a collaborative space for navigating complex inner worlds—where all of you is welcome
My Approach
Collaborative
You are the expert on you. I am a lifelong learner and have many knowledge bases to pull from, but we are copilots on this journey.
Intuitive
Our sessions might not look the same from week to week because chances are something has shifted, changed, or returned since the last time we met. I allow our collective intuition to guide rather than scripts and protocols.
Resourced
Lived experience can be a valuable resource in our work together, so I try to provide resources from others with similar experiences to your own. I am also resourced in a somatic sense. I do my own work so I can stay present with whatever challenge needs witnessing ensuring you have a solid helper you never have to feel responsible for.
Reasons you might be here
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You're good at getting sh*t done but not taking care of yourself.
You’re busy and you like it that way. You can’t slow down because there’s just too much to do and there’s no one else who can do it. You derive meaning and get praise for how much you do. But maybe it’s getting harder to stay busy, or someone has asked for more of your attention, or maybe something inside longs for something different, but you don’t know where to start.
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It's hard to talk about it.
Maybe you’ve had experiences that are difficult to talk about because they make the room go quiet. Everyone else is sharing memories from childhood. People are laughing, maybe commiserating. When it’s your turn, everyone stares at you. Some with shock, some with sympathy you didn’t ask for, and some maybe with disgust. They tried to mask it, but it was a second too late. Your highly attuned radar never misses.
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Attachment is complicated.
Maybe you’re self-reliant but long for connection. You attempt it, but affection makes you pull away. Yet when asked for space, you find yourself surprised by the discomfort. Maybe you don’t like being alone, but you don’t want to be physically touched. Maybe you want to be touched, but with no strings attached. Maybe emotions feel “needy” so you pull away from others or are good at hiding your own.
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The response is disproportionate to the threat.
It’s just a dropped cup but your body feels like it needs to escape. Your toe just got stepped on by accident but something inside wants to snap. It’s just your friend having a bad day, but you shut down and watch from far away. Someone just knocked on the door and somehow you feel like prey. It’s just cancelled plans, but you feel compelled to check and see if they’re mad at you.
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You lack a felt sense of autonomy.
Maybe it’s familial, cultural, or societal expectations, but your needs come last or not at all. You might be caregiving others who are capable of doing it themselves and can’t bring yourself to say no. And it seems like no matter how bad the circumstances get you stay in situations longer than you want to. You might even feel detached from your body or on autopilot.
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You don't fit into boxes.
Maybe you’ve questioned your identity. You’ve explored your gender or sexuality and came out confused. Or, separately, maybe you’ve sought help in the past, but the “expert” couldn’t find anything wrong. Maybe you’ve been diagnosed a few times and maybe even medicated, but nothing seems to work consistently. No matter what it is, you seem to fit too many boxes or none at all.
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Inner conflict rules.
Everything's fine and also somehow not fine. You want a big change, but don’t want to lose what you have. Your preferences and mood seem to shift unpredictably. One moment you’re grateful, the next you’re dissatisfied. Suicidal thoughts might even catch you off guard. Maybe one moment you have a childlike drive for comfort and the next you feel rebellious. You might think, “Are those even my feelings?”
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You want a bigger support network.
You’ve always been different but unsure how or why. Maybe you prepare beforehand, but it still seems to go wrong. Maybe you feel like too much or too weird, and it’s there even in spaces you were told you belong in. Maybe next time if you prepare enough, you’ll be accepted. It feels like it’s all on you to figure out what everyone else already seems to know.
(The above is not an exhaustive list. It’s just a jumping off point.)
How I can help
EMDR
A highly researched and evidence-based practice for complex trauma and other things that get “stuck”
Expressive Arts
Painting, drawing, writing, collage, or a dash of theater keep us moving when words are hard to find
IFS +
IFS-informed EMDR and parts work therapies move us closer to compassion and away from stigma
Education
Whether it’s about modalities, resources, or neuroscience, “psychoed” is a regular part of the process
Somatic +
EMDR, IFS, Sensorimotor, and mindful movement are tools to bring you home to your body at your own pace
Relational
Tapping into the here and now of the therapeutic relationship can be a remarkable tool in understanding the patterns that occur within your other relationships
FAQ
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Good question!
What you pay depends on your insurance plan or if you are paying out-of-pocket.
With insurance, you may have a co-pay, co-insurance, or a deductible. It’s your responsibility to know and you can find this information by contacting your insurance payer.
With insurance, you won’t pay my rates, you’ll pay what your plan allows and no more than a contracted reimbursement rate (i.e., the rate the insurance company agreed to pay me when I credentialed with them) and insurance companies contractually bar providers from sharing those reimbursement rates publicly, (yes, you read that right) so I can’t actually state here what that might be.
My private pay rates are:
$175 for our initial appointment
$150 for 60-75 minutes
$0 for a 20-minute phone consult
*I offer limited sliding scale options using the Green Bottle Sliding Scale to determine eligibility.
Regardless of your financial situation, let’s talk about it!
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Another good question!
It depends :-)
Some folks find that for emergent life stressors and changes, having a therapist on their team for a few months helps them regain insight and stability. Others find that a longer-term approach with a consistent helper supports deeper work repairing years spent in survival.
It’s also expected and encouraged for you to let your therapist know if you feel like you’re moving in the right direction. This is a collaboration where we’ll check in regularly to ensure we’re on the right track.
We’ll know we’re done when you’ve met your goals and are seeing the changes you wanted to implement!
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It’s a process and you are at step one right now.
Step one - do you connect with my website? do I offer what you’re looking for? do you sense I’ve worked with similar issues to your own? do you connect with my philosophy?
If you said yes to any of those, proceed -
Step two - have a phone consult. do you feel hopeful or validated afterwards? were you given the opportunity to ask questions?
Step three - have your first appointment. did you feel like I was curious about you? did you find me reasonably easy to talk to for a first meeting?
Step four - after another session or two, do you feel like I am really listening? how do you feel when you’re working with me? can you see yourself growing toward the life you want with me as a collaborator?
If yes to all or most of these, that’s a pretty good indicator!
(These are just some of the considerations you might make.)
Ready?
Use the contact form to share a little about yourself before we schedule a free 20-minute phone consultation.
A consult gives us both a chance to ask questions and for me to provide everything you need to know to get started.